Our journey to adopt our son, Everett David
Everett is pure joy! There is not a question in our mind that while most difficult, everything early on happened because Everett was the baby meant to be our son.
Since my husband and I lived and worked in Uganda in 2009, international adoption has been the way we have wanted to grow our family. In 2014, we discovered BAAS and began our journey to adopt our son, Everett David. BAAS prepared us exceptionally well for what was ahead: the uncertainties, the waiting, the Ugandan court process, and most importantly, bonding with our child, who was nearly a year old when we first met. Our home study process was a very positive experience, and we enjoyed learning from our social worker about what might lie ahead.
We were matched with a little boy on July 14, 2015, but due to some unforeseen circumstances, BAAS had to drop his case two months later. As we trudged through a deep heartbreak about which we had been warned, but could never have been emotionally ready we asked BAAS to please continue with our process. On November 30, we received the call that there was a baby boy available for adoption. We cried tears of joy, and moved forward cautiously.
Ugandan law required that Everett be in his orphanage for six months before we could travel to pick him up. The wait was agonizing! We sent formula, bottles, prayed for him every day, checked our email incessantly hoping for just one more picture, and sent our Ugandan friends to visit him on a regular basis. In the most joyful moment of our lives, we picked up Everett the day he had been in the orphanage six months. The next three-and-a-half months in Uganda were hard! We waited for the court order, ruling, passport, medical reports, and appointments with the US Embassy. We parented our child in the developing world without our own car, or our own place to live. While difficult, our time together in Uganda really bonded us as a family, and together we celebrated each step of the journey.
We were cleared to come home in late July. It was a relief that took a few weeks to really set in we had to decompress from the uncertainty, fear, and anxiety that were constant companions throughout our adoption journey. Living our family life here at home, in our own space, with our own car and family nearby is so much fun!
Everett is pure joy! There is not a question in our mind that while most difficult, everything early on happened because Everett was the baby meant to be our son. We are so in love with him and enjoy watching him discover more of this world each and every day. This week he learned to say, uh-oh, and he is about to start walking. Sometimes when we look at him, our hearts feel like theyre going to explode. This has been the hardest and happiest year of our lives. We would not be here if it was not for the support of the BAAS family and to this family, we are eternally grateful.
Risa, David, and Everett